Some may say that it is an easy moment to remember, that moment when they became a mother. And for most, I would think it is fairly obvious.
“I gave birth to a child, hence motherhood”.
Thanks, Captain Obvious, for that. I don’t think I could have figured it out.
Or maybe, it’s that firm attachment to your pet. We started off with a dog, before progressing on to human motherhood. I am that little dog’s mother. Whether he likes it or not. Especially when he is peeing in places he shouldn’t. Which is all the time. Then I am one of those ‘Mummy-Monsters’.
Or maybe it is that first time your little person gets really sick. It’s like those mothering feelings just erupt out of you, you know exactly what to do.
Motherhood changes you, even if you don’t notice. It makes you less tolerant of your sick husband (partner). Sorry honey!! Must cook baby dinner/do baby laundry/wash baby/read to baby/etc etc etc. That little man has reached a much higher level of awesomeness than you. And will stay at that level. FOREVER. So no more asking for egg on toast.
Motherhood is this total mystical, spiritual, wellspring of eternal knowledge, ‘I am all knowing’, freakin’ crazy amazing thing.
Right now, my own mother is visiting me. And she is sick.
As a new mother, here are the things I can’t help but do:
1) an ever present glass of water
2) ‘The best question ever… “Is there anything you need??”
3) Speak in a soothing voice
4) Sway back and forth. By myself. On a separate surface than she…
5) Look worried and impose that worry on everyone else.
6) “Would you like some tea???”
It is really amazing how much stereotypical ‘mom’ came out of my mouth during my conversation with my sick mother in her darkened bedroom.
I stood up from the bed, bent over and kissed her on the forehead, while my free hand soothingly stroked her brow and automatically tucked her hair back. Apparently this is something I have been doing for my whole life, that is how casual it felt.
What was this!?!? This automatic gesture? Where did this come from? Was it in the manual?
No, my sweet mothers, it is just motherhood. We all have it, whether we use it on our dogs, cats or delicious babies. But how funny to use it on your own dearest mother.
Dearest Mother, please get better….